Black tax killing me

B2 TOP OF THE MORNING 

I feel as if my mom is taking advantage of me. She is asking for too much and its starting to take its toll on me.

I was raised by a single mother and l truly  appreciate everything she did to raise me. Ever since dad left us my mother never remarried.

Neither did she bring any man home, instead should she need to have some time, she would do it further away from me. 

She never introduced me to any man, because she felt it would be wrong of her to have different men walk in and out of our lives. 

My mom never dated much, probably  she was scared of being abandoned  hence she worked tooth and nail to provide for me and never dated much. 

To me she is my hero and I cherish everything she did for me. I have now come of age and have a family of my own. Its been quite difficult for me and my wife to get along because my mom is always in our space.

Yes she sacrificed for me, but the rate at which she is coming to collect is too much. Her demands are straining my relationship with my wife.

Its like I married two women, anything I do for my wife my mother wants double or equal. Not that she is not being taken care of. She is my guy, but she doesn't think its enough.

I have built her a house, bought her the latest car and have provided everything for her. 

Even started her a business she has help at home and everywhere I have made sure of that.

The problem is she is competing with my wife in everything she wants everything as my wife has. She is really doing the most in collecting her black tax.

My wife has tried to raise the issue but I have brushed it off. I often tell her she is just lonely and acting out. We need her more than she needs us.

To my wife she feels suffocated  because she is not getting her space. My mom is always in our business. She practically stays with us. She can arrive anytime and say am here  to see you. Really mother! its 2am.

I do not know how to handle this and how best to approach her. I am afraid confronting the elephant in the room would pain her more than it would me.

I am scared she might think I have scorned her. Hell hath no fury, I am terrified of what lies beyond the conversation. Meanwhile I am pretending all is well with her.

The relationship between my mother and wife is sour, they hardly talk despite my mom being at our place every day.

How do I break the ice. 

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